For many survivors of domestic abuse, the decision to leave an abusive relationship is incredibly difficult. Beyond concerns for personal safety and that of their children or other family and even friends, many face an agonising dilemma: what will happen to their beloved animals?
Animals are often considered family
Animals of all types often provide comfort, companionship, and emotional support during some of life’s toughest moments. For survivors, animals can be a source of unconditional love and solace amid chaos and fear. Leaving an animal behind can feel like abandoning a loyal friend, intensifying feelings of guilt and isolation.
How abusers use pets as a tool for control and coercion
Sadly, abusers often recognise this bond and exploit it. Threatening to harm, abandon, or actually harming animals is a devastating form of abuse — a way to exert control and keep survivors trapped. This tactic is sometimes called “pet abuse” or “animal abuse” as part of the broader picture of domestic violence and abuse.
Survivors may fear that if they leave, their animals will be left vulnerable, neglected, or hurt. This fear can delay or even prevent someone from escaping an abusive environment — a dangerous and heart breaking situation.
The fear of leaving pets behind – a barrier to freedom
Research shows that many survivors stay longer in abusive homes specifically because of concerns for their animals. It’s a hidden barrier that can be overlooked when we discuss domestic abuse support and safety planning.
If you or someone you know is experiencing this fear, know that you are not alone — and help is available.
Somerset Domestic Abuse Service’s Animal Fostering Scheme – your animals are safe with us
At Somerset Domestic Abuse Service, we understand how critical pets and animals are to survivors. That’s why we operate a dedicated animal fostering service — designed to ensure that your beloved furry friends have a safe, caring temporary home while you escape and rebuild your life.
Our animal fostering scheme offers:
- A safe environment where your animal will be looked after with kindness and professionalism.
- Regular updates so you can stay connected and reassured about your animal’s wellbeing.
- Support tailored to your needs so you can focus on your safety without the heartache of leaving animals behind.
How to access our animal fostering service
If you are thinking about leaving an abusive relationship but worried about your animal’s safety, contact Somerset Domestic Abuse Service. Our experienced team will listen to your concerns, provide advice, and help arrange safe fostering for your animals as part of your safety plan.
You are not alone — we are here for you and your animals
Leaving abuse is a courageous step, and it’s important that no survivor feels forced to choose between their safety and their animals. Our animal fostering scheme is one way we ensure that all family members — including the four-legged ones — are protected and cared for.
If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse, reach out to Somerset Domestic Abuse Service, a confidential and experienced organisation that can provide the right support. Help is available, and you are not alone:
- Call: 0800 69 49 999 (8am–8pm, 7 days a week including bank holidays)
- Website: Somerset Domestic Abuse (including live chat)
- In an emergency dial 999. If speaking puts you at risk, stay silent, tap the phone, and press 55 when prompted.
- For those who are deaf, hard of hearing, or speech-impaired, register with emergencySMS.net to text 999 in an emergency. If you use British sign language (BSL) you can go to 999 BSL for a BSL interpreter.
Your safety and your animal’s wellbeing matter. Together, we can help you both find a safe future.
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