When we talk about domestic abuse, the focus is often – and rightly – on supporting people experiencing it. However, to break the cycle of abuse, it is equally vital to address the behaviour of those who perpetrate it.
The reality is that perpetrators of domestic abuse can come from all walks of life, including those who are neurodiverse. Understanding the connection between neurodiversity and abusive behaviour is a crucial step in creating effective interventions that lead to meaningful change.
Somerset Domestic Abuse Service’s Engage Programme is one such intervention making a difference. Designed to support individuals who have caused harm towards their partners, it provides tools to recognise harmful behaviours and develop healthier ways of relating to others. For neurodiverse perpetrators, this tailored support can be particularly transformative.
Neurodiversity and domestic abuse – unpacking the link
Neurodiversity refers to the natural variations in human brain function and behaviour, encompassing conditions such as autism, ADHD, dyslexia, and more.
It is essential to clarify that neurodiversity does not cause domestic abuse. Abusive behaviour stems from a desire to exert control and power over a partner, which is a learned behaviour rather than an inevitable result of neurodivergence.
However, neurodiverse individuals may experience heightened challenges in communication, impulse control, or interpreting social cues, which can complicate their relationships.
For example, someone with ADHD might struggle with emotional regulation, leading to difficulties in managing anger constructively. Meanwhile, autistic individuals might face challenges in understanding the emotional impact of their actions due to differences in social communication.
Recognising these nuances is not about excusing abusive behaviour but about understanding the full context to intervene more effectively.
How the Engage Programme makes a difference
The Engage Programme offered by Somerset Domestic Abuse Service provides a structured pathway for perpetrators to change. It combines one-on-one sessions with group work, focusing on accountability, understanding the impact of abuse, and building healthier relationship skills. For neurodiverse participants, the programme’s person-centred approach ensures that support is accessible and relevant to their needs.
Key aspects of the programme that benefit neurodiverse individuals include:
- Clear communication: Facilitators use straightforward language and practical examples, helping neurodiverse participants to better understand and reflect on their behaviour.
- Emotional regulation strategies: Specific techniques are taught to manage impulsivity and anger, addressing challenges that might be heightened by conditions like ADHD or autism.
- Structured learning: The predictable and organised format of the programme can be particularly effective for autistic individuals who benefit from routine and clarity.
- Empathy development: Through role-play and discussions, participants are encouraged to develop empathy and understand the emotional impact of their actions on others.
The importance of early intervention
By addressing abusive behaviours early and providing neurodiverse perpetrators with the tools to change, the Engage Programme helps prevent further harm. Breaking the cycle of abuse is not just about responding to crises but about proactive support and education.
Encouragingly, many participants report improved self-awareness, better emotional control, and healthier relationships after completing the programme.
A call to action
If you or someone you know could benefit from the Engage Programme, contact the Somerset Domestic Abuse Service. Taking the first step might feel daunting, but it is a step towards safer relationships and a brighter future.
By recognising the unique challenges faced by neurodiverse perpetrators and providing tailored support, Somerset’s Engage Programme is proving that real, lasting change is possible.
For more information, visit our Information for those causing harm page or call 0800 69 49 99.
Together, we can build a safer, more understanding community for everyone.
Further reading:
- The Path to Positive Relationships
- The importance of engaging with perpetrators of domestic abuse – prevention is best
