Domestic abuse can affect anyone, regardless of age or background. However, older people with neurodivergent conditions such as autism, ADHD, or dyslexia face unique challenges when it comes to recognising and escaping abuse.
Understanding these challenges is essential to provide the right support and ensure that no one suffers in silence. In this blog, we will explore the link between neurodivergence and domestic abuse in older people, supported by research and expert sources, and highlight the services available to help.
What is neurodivergence?
Neurodivergence is a term used to describe people whose brain functions differently from what is considered typical. This includes conditions such as autism, ADHD, dyslexia, dyspraxia, and more (Neurodiversity Hub).
Neurodivergent individuals often process information, communicate, and respond to situations in unique ways. While these differences are not disabilities in themselves, they can create challenges in a world designed for neurotypical people.
How neurodivergence affects the recognition of abuse
Domestic abuse is not always physical. It can include emotional, economic psychological gaslighting and coercive control, which can be harder to recognise, especially for neurodivergent individuals. For example:
- Difficulty reading social cues: Autistic people might struggle to interpret body language or tone, making it harder to spot manipulative behaviour (National Autistic Society).
- Sensory processing issues: Overwhelm from sensory inputs can make it challenging to respond to threats effectively (ADDitude Magazine).
- Dependence and isolation: Some older neurodivergent people may depend on partners or family member for care and support, increasing their risk of isolation and control (Safelives).
Understanding these challenges is the first step to providing effective support and protection.
The impact of age on neurodivergent people experiencing abuse
Older neurodivergent individuals face additional barriers due to age-related factors:
- Lack of diagnosis: Many older people grew up before neurodivergence was well understood. As a result, they may not have a diagnosis and might not understand why they struggle to cope in abusive situations (British Psychological Society).
- Stigma and shame: Older generations often faced greater stigma about both neurodivergence and domestic abuse, making them less likely to seek help (Age UK).
- Health complications: Age-related health issues can make it even harder to leave an abusive situation (Alzheimer’s Society).
- Services can seem inaccessible: Difficulties in communicating the types of abuse that are being experienced, and agencies not recognising them as (or prioritising) domestic abuse can mean specialist help is not considered.
Breaking down these barriers requires a compassionate and tailored approach.
Reach out for support today
No one should face domestic abuse alone. If you are an older neurodivergent person experiencing domestic abuse, or if you’re worried about someone who is, please reach out. Somerset Domestic Abuse Service is here to listen, understand, and support you every step of the way.
- Call: 0800 69 49 999 (8am–8pm, 7 days a week including bank holidays)
- Email: domesticabuseservice@somerset.gov.uk
- In an emergency dial 999. If speaking puts you at risk, stay silent, tap the phone, and press 55 when prompted.
- For those who are deaf, hard of hearing, or speech-impaired, register with emergencySMS.net to text 999 in an emergency. If you use British sign language (BSL) you can go to 999 BSL for a BSL interpreter.
Conclusion
By understanding the unique challenges faced by neurodivergent older people, we can create a more inclusive and effective support system. Let’s break the silence around domestic abuse and make sure everyone has the help they need.
