Men and domestic abuse
Recognise the signs of an unhealthy relationship and what you can do to get help
If you are feeling controlled, unable to make your own decisions, scared, intimidated or threatened by your partner or a family member, you are being abused. Your relationship does not have to be physically violent to be abusive.
Most men do not believe or feel they are a victim until sometime after they no longer have control of their life and have become isolated. You are not to blame, you are not weak and your are not alone. There is help available.
Find out how we can help you and how you can get in touch.
ManKind also provides support, information and signposting for men experiencing domestic abuse. They have a directory of services that you may find helpful.
Myths and misconceptions about domestic abuse
Only women experience domestic abuse
The Men’s Advice Line is for male victims of domestic abuse. They offer confidential advice, non-judgmental support, practical information and help.
She does not hit me so it is not abuse
Find out more about the different types of abuse.
Domestic abuse always involves physical or sexual violence
Other abusive behaviours include:
- Coercive control
- Psychological abuse
- Financial or economic control
- Emotional abuse
- Online or digital abuse
Short free online awareness courses are available to help you understand more about domestic abuse.
Alcohol and drugs make women more violent
She can be a good mother even if she abuses me, it does not have to affect our children
An estimated 90% of children whose parents are in an abusive relationship witness the abuse. When a child witnesses domestic abuse it is child abuse.
Find out more about children and domestic abuse.
All couples argue – it is not domestic abuse, it is just a normal relationship
Find out more about Recognising unhealthy relationships.
Domestic abuse only occurs in impoverished, inner-city areas
Domestic abuse is a rare occurrence
Domestic abuse is often a one-off incident
People experiencing abuse often provoke assaults and therefore 'ask for it'
Domestic abuse is a private matter that others should not get involved in
If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse phone 0800 69 49 999.
In an emergency you should always dial 999, if you are unable to speak because you are worried you will be overheard you can press 55 and the operator will know that you need assistance.
What is domestic abuse?
Domestic abuse is any type of controlling, bullying, threatening or violent behaviour between people in a relationship
Recognising unhealthy relationships
What to look out for and signs that there is domestic abuse in a relationship
Directory of additional support services
Somerset Domestic Abuse is Somerset’s main specialist service which provides support to men, women and children who are affected by domestic abuse.
Find other local and national services that can provide you with extra support.Find a service
8am to 8pm
7 days a week
0800 69 49 999
If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call the Police
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